I saw this discussion brought up on a different thread and I though I’d get some more opinions on the matter.

The Beehaw community guidelines describe a place that’s meant to be safe, friendly and encourages people to discuss their ideas in good faith. For the most part I feel like this community lives up to that; users of this instance are generally thoughtful with their responses. However, I don’t feel like that level of quality extends to the users who post from other instances. Responses from those users are more likely to pendantic, overly argumentative, and unhelpful.

Now I may just be an elitist fuck so I’d like to hear your opinions on this. Does Beehaw benefit from federation? Do the community guidelines even matter if they don’t apply to many of the people who engage with this instance? Am I just looking for a reason to complain?

EDIT: This post isn’t a request for Beehaw to defederate btw. I just wanted to discuss the negatives of federation and what we can do to alleviate them :)

  • jarfil@beehaw.orgEnglish
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    11 months ago

    Hm, that indeed sounds harsh, and disabling. If you say it comes as part of the autism diagnosis… then I’ll have to read up and reflect on it.

    Thank you for sharing.

    The attitudes from some health care professionals, I’ve got some of those; I think some try to be funny, but their humor is… pretty twisted, and sometimes too out of place. That is, when they aren’t just undertrained, or burned out. If possible, try to find someone who understands your case, and stick to them, and hope their contract gets renewed.

    Places like malls, or anywhere with ads (that includes images, lights, sounds, smells), I’m afraid are always going to be tuned to NT levels, so only something like relax places come to mind as safe spaces. At least, until everyone ends up wearing VR helmets 24/7, with their own personalized experiences (then you’ll get to experience your own low-key personalized ads too, yay!..)

    • YourHeroes4Ghosts@beehaw.orgEnglish
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      11 months ago

      Unfortunately, when local professionals told me that autism is a disorder of childhood in which they are not trained, and therefore they will not see me, they are being very serious, not joking even in a dark and twisted way. My country has a kind of national health service and I happen to live in an area where there are no services of any kind for autistic adults. Once I am told “no, you can’t have an appointment, I don’t see autistic adults”, there is nowhere else to go.