I havent been on Reddit in a while. I reduced drastically the amount of Reddit related content I watch, and gotta say, they helped me a lot a while back to recognize unacceptable behavior, and showing it to my bf was important in his development to recognize how abusive his mom was and taking steps to go leave her and go NC.
But when I listen to it now, it of just, obnoxious most of the time. Someone else feels this way?
There’s people who get their satisfaction by trying to give advice to others, even if it’s completely wrong or unhinged. They repeat the standard things just to feed their ego, not to actually help the person they’re talking to.
The best therapy an inexperienced person can give is just talking and listening to the person. You’ll know the difference if the person seems genuinely interested in the person who has the problem.
I’m studying to be a counselor and solid listening is half of the battle. Just feeling heard gives a lot of catharsis and if you can understand, analyze, and restate what they’re telling you in a way that drives insight, folks can usually solve their own problems. Getting them back in the driver’s seat is the goal in the first place, not fixing their problems for them. Helping them connect the dots goes a long way.
Wow I think you explained that really well and with really good insight