Some people fake it with children to fake appeareances (they may not care about the child, but they do care about the opinion of the parents or anyone watching), I find it way more telling when looking how they treat animals and pets, since those are often percieved as “inferior beings” and its harder to fake it.
I personally trust my dog’s opinion on people upon meeting them.
My grandma took care of me from the moment I was two months old till I was old enough to travel on my own and cook my own food, and even after that we would continue meeting for lunch every week. My mom and dad were present in my life and loving parents but divorced when I was really young and both had to work and travel a lot, through it all, I’d always had her.
At the time of the story, my dear grandma was slowly dying in her struggle with depression. In-patient treatment had done little to nothing, she was on several psychiatric medications, no dice.
In the middle of this I had an interview scheduled for an internship in a field I really cared about and for the life of me, I couldn’t find the room the interview was being held at in that laberynth of a faculty building. I would go to where the receptionist told me and find nothing, Id ask teachers and no one knew the place I was headed to. Id open random doors and got into offices where people would rush me out. The clock was ticking and I felt incredibly stupid at not being able to find the stupid room. The building wasn’t even that large.
And all of a sudden it was too much and I just… broke down sobbing and couldnt stop, everything was too much. Must have been ugly crying for half an hour straight. My eyes were so puffy I could barely even see anymore.
What I wont forget about that time is how many of the 17 - 18 year-old students approached me that day: offered me water, or to show me the bathroom, asked if I needed a phone to call anyone. One girl even hugged me while I continued crying my hear out and helped me email the person I was supposed to meet that day to tell them I had a personal emergency, while she heard out everything that was going on with me and try her best to assure me everything would turn out fine.
On my way home, people on the public transport would offer me seats, or ask if I was alright.
Sounds like small things, but in the world we live in sometimes its easy to believe nobody gives a shit anymore.
I did get that internship, the following week. And continue to be in that field of work.
Anyone working on reddit might benefit from contacting some of the people that used to work on twitter, just so that they are prepared for what’s to come y´know.
I mean spez already said he admires Elon Musk’s directive of twitter, it doesn’t take much to know that its going to turn into a very shitty place to work for if it hasn’t reached that point yet.
The answer won’t susprise you…
Oh yeah, I can suscribe through midwest.social
Succulent community?
I loved that one too! let’s go.
So far I found https://kbin.social/m/[email protected] to have some activity, but I do love me some succulent specific sub.
Went to your profile, apparently right now you have a thread inside the “random” magazine. You’d probably want to create your own magazine so that people can suscribe, count me in to volunteer some pics of my babies to get the content going.
Didn’t even know what a 3rd party app was until the protests (never used reddit on my phone to limit the amount of time spent there, and was never very tech savvy).
Left because of other reasons, like a couple mods of communities I love packing up and leaving and the sheer principle of it all.
They are probably not gonna get backpay, but what this could achieve is to force reddit’s hand in legally recognizing mod’s work from that point on and giving the mods more standing than they have now.
At the very worst, it sends a message and helps to continue bringing to light reddit’s shitty practices.
Negociation 101: ask for more than you actually expect to get (within reason, you don’t want people to think you are a joke).
They ask for backpay not really expecting for backpay, just to give them wiggle room to settle in court for better rights from that moment on.
Last and only time I had to sue someone (and won) my lawyer told me what the usual result of cases like mine is, then we asked for that and like, 20% extra. Then on the mediation we “negociated” for the amount we were really expecting to get.
(This is all personal speculation, Im not a mod, clearing that up just in case).
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Commenting just to say, you are not alone buddy!
A year or so ago I started on a job that was promising but very quickly found it was not what I expected at all, and very soon after started crying and feeling miserable all the time.
I had dreams where I was fired, and I woke up sad that they were just dreams. It was that bad.
It wasn’t that I was exploited or my coworkers were toxic, it was just a very very bad fit for me. Without giving too much detail, I was in that job to help people, but the job had no actual tools or resources to help anyone. So I just had to listen to these terrible stories and take note… and do nothing.
When I quit, instead of another full time job, I came up with a bunch of freelance-ish style of stuff, where I could organice my own day and give myself time to heal ( I know not everyone can do this, but it worked for me). I learned a big lesson on the kinds of jobs I DONT WANT and what Im better off avoiding.
Then decided I wanted to give resources to the people around the country that work in the same position I used to, and through friends and contacts made a course so that people now can have some resources to help.
Your path and what works to get out of this will be unique to you, but don’t be afraid to change it up a bit for some time. I hope it works out for you in the end!
Oh yeah, Back on reddit I never checked the notifications on my comments. I liked giving the advice but got terrible anxiety when someone answered because I knew there was a fifty-fifty chance of someone flying off the handle. Making it even harder, english ain’t my native language and from time to time if Im tired I mess up.
In here people have been so nice, even as Im learning and messing up how to work this platform.
In some communities I was already repeating the same advice over and over again like a parrot.
There was so much traffic and desinformation that the same question would pop up 30 times in an hour.
Since some of the comminities I liked I haven’t been able to find here, I just… created it. And am slowly filling it in with everything I amassed during my reddit time.
People may find it useful or not, and may begin engaging with it or not (hope not, cause I wasn’t born to “mod”) but at least I will have all advice and resources in one spot, neat and tidy. And if anyone needs it, it will be there.
I dont get it either, Ive been browsing different instances(? and when I find some community I like I search it up in kbin (which Im trying to make my main account I guess) by copying that little bit that comes up that says “copy and paste in your node’s search bar”, If I cant join from kbin I make a new account and join from there.
Its whatever, Ill figure it out eventually.
Oh that’s good to know, thanks for the recommendation!
Don’t know, but so far it seems like most marketing algorythms don’t know what on earth to do with me, cause I really be here on internet doing very specific things that don’t necesarilly relate.
They throw in the most random stuff, sometimes its things from countries Im not from, other times they think Im male, others that Im female.
On a very funny instance I got a youtube add (won’t elaborate on why addblock wasn’t on) recruiting me to join the sugar daddy / sugar baby business(??? (still don’t know if they wanted me to be the sugar daddy or the sugar baby, cause sure as hell I aint got the money and I aint got the goods).
I spent so much time there on reddit spreading knowledge of the things I had experience with and was passionate about (mostly piercing care, plant care, and science related stuff, which Ill admit is a pretty random combination of things).
For now, I can’t bring myself to delete it.
But I do look forward to spreading the things I learned to a brand new audience, so Im keeping my head high even if Im sad its come to this
Hope Im doing this right (reddit refugee, hello everybody). Best of luck with your healing!
Titanium took a while to arrive where I live so I got to see all of the friends that thought they couldn’t get piercings suddenly being able to rock new piercings. Wish you all the best!
Currently on the last stages of healing my daith piercing (if anyone is stuggling with that one, I have some advice I learned the hard way haha).
Rocking the pink bangs I gave myself during quarantine and couldn’t get myself to let go of.
Excited for future piercing and tattoo projects
You can replace reddit.com with reddit.adminforge.de, so say instead of reddit.com/r/ModCoord –> go to reddit.adminforge.de/r/ModCoord
You can scroll your little heart away without giving reddit any traffic