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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • I really understand you and given your personal experience (and pain), your reaction might be a bit too confrontational but certainly understandable. I am sorry if I said anything that opened old wounds in you.

    I obviously think accepting oneself is very important. I would be never deny the possibility of they being trans. I wasn’t and aren’t aware how often “femboy” is a expression of denialism, or if I misunderstood you, the more appropriate term. Thanks for clueing me in.

    That being said, I don’t think I denied the possibility of him being trans but argued for accepting them in public discours however they identify. That doesn’t mean you can talk about the general tendency of closeted trans women in regards of being femboys in public. But maybe not about specific people. I am not affected and can’t tell, but I am really scared that arguing in public without the required context could be a way to unintentionally teach harmful behavior to people, naming publicly doubting and creating a somewhat hostile environment. I am cis straight but it doesn’t take me much empathy to find tears for the pain in the heart of the people we talk about. I just wanna less their pain and maybe that leads on the long term wrong path.

    I wanna tell you good bye and hope to read you here again. I wish you happiness. Take care, sister.


  • I am happy that you care but you realize that I didn’t express that he shouldn’t get hrt. The person expressed that they are one and in public discours it is good to accept them like that. If the discussion would be about hrt, I would see where you are coming from to express your assumption but in this case, it is just not really accepting them. It is “I know better, you trans” over a concern that is in the context not expressed and visible.

    Remember that trans people and “femboys” might read this and your words to me, a cis man, could impact them, that is why I am insist on calling him what he expressed, fictional or not.

    Your concern is accepting and welcoming and trans people probably appreciate your concern and a “femboy” might understand you and accept that it isn’t a dismissal of him but a accepting of a trans person. But unstated, it will be read differently.

    Take care.





  • There is a difference.

    A lot of people who claim to be liberal, just aren’t left wing. The good example is the FDP party in Germany.

    To quote Wikipedia: The FDP’s political position has variously been described as centrist, centre-right, and right-wing. The FDP has been described as liberal, conservative-liberal, classical-liberal, and liberal-conservative. Other sources have described the party as libertarian or right-libertarian.

    There are left wing liberals, but don’t act like they usually call themselves liberal.














  • I see your perspective and I think you kinda miss my perspective which I am to blame for.

    I don’t say there weren’t improvements. I am saying that given the uncertainty of “goodness”. Maybe we shouldn’t idolize it. You can appreciate the attempt of creating memory safe code through a programing language without thinking the bare metal code should be written in that language. You can like a typeless easy to write language like Js without thinking desktop app should be written in it. You can like the idea behind functional programming while believing that any application is in the end about side effects and therefore a purely functional application impossible.

    You can approach the whole topic as an area of study and possible technological advances instead of a dogma.


  • There have been “improvements” but fundamentally in my perspective, these “improvements” could be revealed to be a mistake down the line.

    Assembly has produced some insane pieces of software that couldn’t be produced like that with anything else.

    Maybe types in programming languages are bad because they are kinda misleading as the computer doesn’t even give a shit about what is data and what is code.

    Maybe big projects are just a bad idea in software development and any kind of dependency management is the wrong way.

    I like modern languages, types and libraries are nice to have, but I am not the student of the future but of the past.