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Are there some women who have higher standards than they, themselves, live up to - sure. But that’s not what makes an incel.
An incel is someone who believes:
- People of my preferred gender kind of suck, mostly
- Despite mostly sucking, people of my preferred gender tend to have high standards <-- you are here
- Those high standards exclude me, and I think that’s unfair; it makes me angry that they won’t give me the chance I deserve.
- I’m tired of playing nice when none of them will give me the chance I deserve. I’ve written their entire gender off as trash, and my new hobby is constantly berating them.
People rarely say #3 and #4 out loud, so once you’re at #2 – which you are – people are going to start making some assumptions.
And yes, there are some women past #3 and #4 themselves, sure. We’ve all heard the occasional “men are pigs,” and that kind of intolerance shouldn’t be accepted no matter who it comes from. But it’s absolutely not many/most of us, and if you think so, you’re either being overly critical or surrounding yourself with the wrong kinds of friends - both of which are on you and show you need to de-incel your thinking before you go off the deep end.
FOMO is a weird term to use here because it implies some anxiety that I could be seeing more stuff than I am.
I get bored sometimes. There isn’t enough content here to keep me super engaged, and interesting niche subs about certain small games and whatnot are missed. I end up swapping back and forth between my front page here and my youtube recs, willing something interesting to appear.
But I’m not feeling the slightest anxiety that I’m missing some stranger’s idea of wit on a site I don’t go to. There’s way too much internet for me to ever think I was seeing it all in the first place, so I’m more than fine with missing the latest lyric or pun comment chain or the hottest new AITA fiction.