I call them a cunt and I get yelled at for being unprofessional in a social media platform and I get banned for them being an an instigator that purposefully states incorrect and inflammatory things.

It has happened. I’ve been called a lot of things and responding to it saying it’s bait from an asshole got me banned for like 7 days months ago on a lemmy.world news thread. The person got upvotes and praise for sticking up for themselves.

This platform likes the bad faith and calling them out is an attack on the in groups that like it. This is a large part here and why I think it’s bad at being a welcoming community.

I want it to move in a better direction not just pretend that it’s fine and ignore it. But I’m coming around to not caring. Not thinking about things seems to be standard, and safer for people’s lives.

LOL the comments telling the Verge to shut it’s mouth.

Also man France loves piracy. I apparently need to learn French better.

A vague question like yours does not imply you want an actual answer without dismissing it.

So why would I waste my time typing it out?
It holds just as much weight as your question so feels the same to me.

What’s wrong with wanting something else?

Thank you! I actually appreciate the honesty. That’s something I can work with.

Maybe, hopefully.

I don’t think it is far different from the snark I see but I don’t think I should emulate that I guess if I hate it when done to me. I just don’t like having to take the high road just cause I apparently invite it.

Yeah the topics aren’t necessarily the problem it’s how it’s not a conversation most of the time it’s just snarky fighting to be the most right or up voted cause they act like they are right.

I would hope it’s not these topics making people shutty or else that doesn’t bode well for them.

Why is it generic if it’s how I feel? Isn’t that just a way to claim people upset are wrong? The generic thing seems to be liking it. I’m just pointing out some of the awareness at least of what we are surrounded by anyways that doesn’t seem true for people in the gardening community with a huge house in the suburbs.

I have stuff I like. I just get stuck between young people panicking about existence in a shit world and gen x ignoring it with memes from 3 decades ago in here.

Yeah it’s annoying it’s the majority of conversations in here, but I don’t going around assuming people are neck beards help gets us off that.

What? If you got stuff say it.

They like to watch modern movies and shows that aren’t marvel, usually have good takes on influencera in here and have the right hate for vtubers.

Plus I think they are just closer to my age and social awkward nerds that are easy to call neckbeards. I’m not gonna get pop culture references of Gen X who seem to make a majority in here.

Yeah I think I’ve realized I’m really only seeing the basic big theads on lemmy.world and the moderation there is kill or be killed and whatever the mods giggle at is allowed. Which means they let dogpiling happen if it seems deserved.

I’m apparently in a rather small instance.

Yeah i thought it was a clever dig against it and also fun turn since I think I have had better conversations about modern day pop culture on hexbear.

I just wasn’t exactly in favor of capitalism anyways just wasn’t the point.

Thanks for being my sanity check on that.

I know that just fine. So what would knowing that matter or do for me? Or my comment?

Ok. Thanks for chiming in.

Have a specific community you like to interact with or are you a Linux user?

Honestly Facebook is even better just cause it’s people putting on the clown makeup to get a ride from you. Apparently they pay pretty well for those stupid community posts if you get enough attention.

It doesn’t feel as self righteous at least is my point. People here deeply assume themselves smarter than anyone else here.

I saw people dogpile a comment cause the first person in a chain misread it and assumed correctly and every comment trying to pull people out of the spiral was downvoted and shouted at for being wrong as they tore each other apart.

It’s like chickens seeing another chicken bleeding. They don’t even think before they tear their kin to shreds.

Everyone feels apparently a deep seated need to be right and defend their idea of the world as if we might steal away their fantasy and make them miserable for it.

If they have an opinion on it than they are already right and anyone coming in to talk to them about it is a dangerous outsider.

Everyone is xenophobic and everyone is the other. Maybe it’s not just here but man is it pretty bad here and on .world.

Lemmy is a group of closed in group thinking communities and if you don’t fit in they will remind you of it.

Hahahahahahaha ohhhh… Yeah like that does anything. I’ve seen mods joke about it just being the person they all gang up on as if it was the thing to do.
I’ve had some good interactions with mods, but that… Was 1 person actually. Same mod basically.

The mods are a lot of the same people and someone from “outside” telling them they are horrified just brands you as another target for them to ignore as you get silenced out. The big communities are absolutely the worst offenders.

Yeah I am also federated with lemmy.world and blocking that would silence the feed a whole lots more while being just as helpful to my psyche.
The commies are at least consistent and up to date on things. Which is insane since they insist on a economic system from 200 years ago.

I think the problem I have is that those outside of grad and hexbear also think their shit doesn’t stink but I literally have seen people openly mocking a user for nothing because he made a comment elsewhere that means they keep going after him to punish him for his opinion on anything. It’s cruel and fucking inhuman. It lacks all empathy and it’s not hexbear that was doing it.

I also don’t want to block people just for existing with other opinions. I couldnt do it in real life. I can choose to not interact.
Blocking feels like a bandaid for having a terrible community where everyone wants to be alone and right.

Mods sure seem to love the political posts in unrelated communities but God forbid you call a jerk a cuck.

It’s all bullshit for sure.

But mostly cause people don’t understand that someone while similar is exactly unlike them. No path or options or thoughts for one person will ever work for another.

Life is very random and chaotic and luck based. People can think they can suggest something but it will literally never happen again as it did for them. Each person uniquely weaving their way through. It’s also extremely unfair and that’s just a plain fact that can’t be even argued against.

I find self help books egregious and awful but some people find them comforting and that it helps them feel seen. But no one wants to feel like they will never be truly understood even if it’s an impossibility because we can grab pieces of them and know that.

Life is unfair. You live and then you die and you get a bunch of free time in the middle to do what you can. I’m sorry it had to happen to you, I’m happy that you get a chance to voice that and I hope you feel the same as often as you can.