Truly a pretty terrible place for any kind of social activity.
People here are super self righteous and unwavering in their beliefs, quick to insult others and be generally bitchy, pedantic and quick to dogpile. Worst of all while still usually slightly wrong about a thing, but unwilling to hear it.
It’s basically the worst parts of reddit users where we have boiled it down to the most affluent or socially insecure.
Even if it’s as simple as a question people jump to defend their position with insults rather than answer it cause they get worried the person might be confused and it’s best to just make sure it’s a closed community as quick as possible.
This isn’t an open community it’s a private gated one where everyone jumped the fence and is scared that the wrong person might have come in with them.
Condescending is not welcoming.
Upvoting cause they are your in group isn’t community.
Berating outcasts cause you at least don’t feel like them is still bullying.
Twitter made me hate people. FB made me realize just how dumb people are. Reddit made me realize that there are no good guys in positions of power. Bluesky is actually pretty chill. But I prefer this format. A forum style.
You forgot where their feelings about a subject hold more weight that your facts. Its usually over some childish pearlclutching.
I see your instance is federated with both Hexbear and Lemmygrad. Going to gesture vaguely at that being the root of your problem (or at least > 90% of it).
Blocking instances helps, but you’ll still see users from there in the comments and in other communities (not on the blocked instance). Some UIs will hide users from blocked instances. I know Tesseract does (I wrote it to do that), but others might as well.
My experience here has been pretty great after getting my blocklist and feed curated.
Yeah I am also federated with lemmy.world and blocking that would silence the feed a whole lots more while being just as helpful to my psyche.
The commies are at least consistent and up to date on things. Which is insane since they insist on a economic system from 200 years ago.I think the problem I have is that those outside of grad and hexbear also think their shit doesn’t stink but I literally have seen people openly mocking a user for nothing because he made a comment elsewhere that means they keep going after him to punish him for his opinion on anything. It’s cruel and fucking inhuman. It lacks all empathy and it’s not hexbear that was doing it.
I also don’t want to block people just for existing with other opinions. I couldnt do it in real life. I can choose to not interact.
Blocking feels like a bandaid for having a terrible community where everyone wants to be alone and right.Wait until someone tells this guy how old capitalism is
I know that just fine. So what would knowing that matter or do for me? Or my comment?
Which is insane since they insist on a economic system from 200 years ago.
I think it’s just that your argument against communism seemed to be based on its age, i.e. it “being old and out dated.”
(Agree communism is not great FWIW)
Yeah i thought it was a clever dig against it and also fun turn since I think I have had better conversations about modern day pop culture on hexbear.
I just wasn’t exactly in favor of capitalism anyways just wasn’t the point.
Thanks for being my sanity check on that.
I question what your criteria for a good pop culture discussion is if you enjoy discussions with a bunch of angry neckbeards
They like to watch modern movies and shows that aren’t marvel, usually have good takes on influencera in here and have the right hate for vtubers.
Plus I think they are just closer to my age and social awkward nerds that are easy to call neckbeards. I’m not gonna get pop culture references of Gen X who seem to make a majority in here.
I think the problem I have is that those outside of grad and hexbear also think their shit doesn’t stink but I literally have seen people openly mocking a user for nothing because he made a comment elsewhere that means they keep going after him to punish him for his opinion on anything. It’s cruel and fucking inhuman. It lacks all empathy and it’s not hexbear that was doing it.
Feel free to report this. This should not be tolerated.
Hahahahahahaha ohhhh… Yeah like that does anything. I’ve seen mods joke about it just being the person they all gang up on as if it was the thing to do.
I’ve had some good interactions with mods, but that… Was 1 person actually. Same mod basically.The mods are a lot of the same people and someone from “outside” telling them they are horrified just brands you as another target for them to ignore as you get silenced out. The big communities are absolutely the worst offenders.
If they are mods, then you can shame them on [email protected]
You can have a look, nobody hesitates to call out crappy mod behaviour
Edit: seems like your instance is not federated, this is what it looks like: https://sopuli.xyz/c/[email protected]
There are instances federating with hexbear and not dbo? Shits wack.
No, it’s more than as their instance is quite small, nobody federated with that precise community
I mean, it’s an active choice by the instance admins at that point. Hexbear and lemmygrad are both well known for being what they are, and db0 is about as well known as a community in general and is one of the generally recommended federation choices.
Am a mod of a few smaller communities but I think I speak for a lot of us. We aren’t in every thread, but if you see rule breaking, report it. That’s what we’re there for. I know that sort of behavior is against the rules in my subs.
Yeah I think I’ve realized I’m really only seeing the basic big theads on lemmy.world and the moderation there is kill or be killed and whatever the mods giggle at is allowed. Which means they let dogpiling happen if it seems deserved.
I’m apparently in a rather small instance.
It has some crazy, but I’ve found it refreshingly with it in many ways. People here generally understand that getting paid enough money instead of ripped off by a billionaire is good. The stuff you shouldn’t have to filter for.
Yeah the topics aren’t necessarily the problem it’s how it’s not a conversation most of the time it’s just snarky fighting to be the most right or up voted cause they act like they are right.
I would hope it’s not these topics making people shutty or else that doesn’t bode well for them.
I have a different experience. I have not blocked anyone or amt instance. I am om lemmy.world, so that might be it?
Must be a different Lemmy you’re talking about. My experience has been nothing like that and generally quite positive.
Ok. Thanks for chiming in.
Have a specific community you like to interact with or are you a Linux user?
There’s more than Linux for nice communities
The problem with nich communities on Lemmy is that you can browse the entire contents of a community in 10 minutes, and then you’re stuck waiting for more content for days or weeks on end. That’s fine if you’re only interested in asking for advice, or occasionally contributing, but it’s very limiting for someone who wants ongoing discussions about their hobbies or interests.
their hobbies or interests.
What are your hobbies or interests? There is probably a community that could use more discussion indeed. I usually recommend moderators of niche communities to set up a weekly thread so that people can discuss things. The best is to have a few users posting daily, but that’s harder to find the most niche the community is (hence why focusing on more generic communities probably makes sense with the current userbase)
I’ve looked for and joined communities for my hobbies and interests. I have my app set up to hide posts after I’ve viewed them. Currently my subscription feed is showing posts from last December, because there’s no new content that I haven’t already interacted with. I always check subscribed first, but then I mosey on over to local or all, since my subscription feed is pretty much dead.
Maybe you can start discussions yourself? A generic “how is everyone doing with our hobby”?
I get where you’re coming from. This platform made me realize once and for all that I’m not a leftist, despite thinking of myself as one for most of my adult life. But I’m definitely not a conservative either, so I’m rudderless. A lone wolf.
Anyways, to the original point, there are a lot of toxic people here. They were on Reddit too, but there was a lot more to dilute their presence. Be active with your blocklist, and use an app that allows you to filter words and instances. Those few actions will drastically change your experiences on Lemmy. It changed mine enough that I went from being an inch away from leaving forever, to actually enjoying most of my time here. And heck, I learned something about myself in the process, and continue learning every day. No sense in only being around people you agree with, that’ll just stunt your growth as a person.
Well, the technical term people use for someone not left and not right, is “centrist” :D
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I can see why you hate everyone here. 🫠
What? If you got stuff say it.
Well that’s piqued my interest so I glanced over your comments. I have to point out that yes, people respond badly to you sometimes, reminding me of reddit.
You should know that you seem unaware that your comments occasionally have a pugnacious or even bellicose tone, not necessarily intentionally mind you, but noticeable. Sometimes dismissive or contemptuous attitudes leak out and hostile replies state they are responding to that. It’s not simple bullying, it’s buttons being pushed.
Thank you! I actually appreciate the honesty. That’s something I can work with.
Maybe, hopefully.
I don’t think it is far different from the snark I see but I don’t think I should emulate that I guess if I hate it when done to me. I just don’t like having to take the high road just cause I apparently invite it.
I realized a few days ago that I was letting the overwhelming negativity from this platform bleed over into other areas of my life, and I had to put that shit in check immediately. It sucks feeling like you’re always stuck being understanding and taking the high road while everyone around you is determined to burn things to the ground, but ultimately it makes you a better person and results in a better life and sense of self.
One thing I noticed is alot of people on Lemmy think that everything on the internet should be free and have no ads. In a perfect world this would be great but most of the sites people regularly use are expensive to operate and wouldn’t exist. I do use as blocker and pirate stuff sometimes but I also pay for YouTube premium and a couple other services. Plus I go to movie theaters whenever there is a movie I really want to see and support.
Get a instance that doesn’t federate with .ml instances or hexbear, block the Lemmy.world political communities and you can enjoy Lemmy mostly without assholes.
I think it depends on the community. All the ppl at sdf.org are pretty cool though. Maybe your instaces is full of annoying people and you only see that in your feed.
+1 for unpopular. I think planet earth is worse platform.
At this point, i’m having a decent time here but I also have a decent block list, an instance blocked, and another mostly blocked.
I don’t mind the commies too much, since I’m an ancom, though I have argued with them on my previous main account a lot, and it did get exhausting since some communities dogmatically support specific arguments that have been proven wrong a hundred years ago or are based on strawmen, or fundamental misunderstandings, or on viewpoints that haven’t been mainstream since the 1800s.
Lemmy has changed a bit since I joined when reddit announced their api changes. It used to be more radical, but I’ve seen a lot more centrists and center left folks join, and I think the mixing of that has caused a fuckton of drama.
Though I don’t see a lot of insults anymore. I’ve been insulted a million different ways, but since march or april I’ve seen a reduction in people calling me a slur or people calling me a fascist or trumper even though my position is to the left of theirs. I remember being insulted incessantly after October of last year.
I tend to be careful where I reply with political talk (AKA not on .world or most hexbear communities) but the non political communities are wonderful. I fucking love the queer communities here (even on hexbear) and the open source communities are also great.
I just hope the toxicity drops to what I remember around June or July of last year once elections end.
There is indeed a LOT of bitchy pedantry on here. I’m not sure it’s worse than other platforms, because this is the only one I’ve been using for a while now. I block very aggressively and that seems to help.
Sorry you’re not having fun on Lemmy, I do get it. For some reason reddit keeps failing upwards and we’re not getting the influx of users I was hoping for. I’m still hanging in here but participating less and less.
For some reason reddit keeps failing upwards and we’re not getting the influx of users I was hoping for.
Inertia is directly related to how big their userbase is. And they pretty much killed all the text-based discussion forums.
So I’m not hopeful we’ll get another influx that soon. People staying on Reddit will prefer to fix their personal API key every day to use a 2 years old Lemmy or Sync apk rather than try Lemmy.
Honestly Facebook is even better just cause it’s people putting on the clown makeup to get a ride from you. Apparently they pay pretty well for those stupid community posts if you get enough attention.
It doesn’t feel as self righteous at least is my point. People here deeply assume themselves smarter than anyone else here.
I saw people dogpile a comment cause the first person in a chain misread it and assumed correctly and every comment trying to pull people out of the spiral was downvoted and shouted at for being wrong as they tore each other apart.
It’s like chickens seeing another chicken bleeding. They don’t even think before they tear their kin to shreds.
Violent agreement
had an account on another server banned for saying this.
Everyone here is very disagreeable. .
.world is by far the worst for ignorant shitheads.
I’m not excluding myself , but I put opinions from a different perspective and just get slaughtered.
This is my 4 account
Everyone feels apparently a deep seated need to be right and defend their idea of the world as if we might steal away their fantasy and make them miserable for it.
If they have an opinion on it than they are already right and anyone coming in to talk to them about it is a dangerous outsider.
Everyone is xenophobic and everyone is the other. Maybe it’s not just here but man is it pretty bad here and on .world.
The most vocal use this place for escapism and don’t want reality to barge into a place they designated as “safe” because it will mean their ideas and desires won’t have a place to tolerate or even promote them.
It is partly this type of disconnection and despair that drives their aggression.
I clash a lot with all the terrorist simps & dictator loving Tankies, which certainly turns into idiotic arguments most of the time, but I don’t think I’ve ever managed to get banned from a server, which really makes me wonder what those “opinions from a different perspective” are. I’m guessing Trumpanzee’s and other far right goons will have an especially hard time on here.
